It might sound like a cliché, but in all types of relationships, it’s all about give and take. Inequality causes and imbalance. Look for an even playing field - one person shouldn’t dominate the conversation, or be the person who organises get togethers. We all go through times where we need extra support from our friends, but there should be a balance in the relationship. 

Having things in common can help us feel connected, but a healthy relationship is one that stretches and grows through time - often this only occurs when we challenge and embrace each other’s differences.

There is no one way for a friendship, no formula to how many close friends you should or shouldn’t have. Don’t be swayed by social media and the popular crowd. Do what works for you, and if that means one or two close friends, quiet gatherings and easy company, then that is what’s right for you. Time is precious - spend it with the people who mean most to you, and who build you up. Hanging around people out of previous shared experiences can become a habit that you no longer enjoy - it might be time to move on.

Like any relationship, friendship can be a rollercoaster of good and hard times. It’s ok to not be in an exciting place all of the time. 

We all get busy and this can cause a drift apart. However, there are also many ways to reach out to one another - if you value the friendship, try to stay connected. Face issues as they arise and be sure to talk about things - even though it may feel awkward, it’s much better than killing a friendship stone dead.

If you feel that you have more to give to others, it can be good to consider who might be feeling alone, and who you can reach out to. You may not be BFFs, but kindness and friendship is always appreciated. 

To have a friend we also need to be a friend.